December 15
A true friend lights the heart like a rainbow

A true friend lights the heart like a rainbow

The study of the book of Proverbs my Sunday school class continues is completely fascinating. I say this for a couple of reasons. First, every time I am able to attend, the topic studied for that week is hard-hitting. We’ve looked at Proverbs on pride, anger, humility, and today it was about friendship. You’d think friendship would be a welcome topic after pride or anger, and it was, but it was an emotional topic for me today.

Our pastor had a fascinating way to lead us in a discussion about friendship. What is friendship and how is it different from fellowship? How is Biblical friendship different from Biblical fellowship? The questions and answers that follow come partially from our
Sunday discussion and partially from my own thoughts and reflections about today’s discussion.

So, what is friendship? Friends put the other person first. They listen to each other and they are there when things go terribly wrong. They do not need to talk, their presence is enough.

How is friendship different from fellowship? Friends encourage and admonish each other with Biblical truths. Fellowship involves people with common interests but not necessarily common religious beliefs. A Christian may fellowship with a great number of people: non-believers, Muslims, and people of all denominations or political beliefs.
However, just being with people or sharing a common interest, doesn’t make them friends and especially not Biblical friends.

What is Biblical fellowship? Biblical fellowship involves Christians being together with
Christians in mutual agreement with mutual interests.

How is Biblical friendship different from Biblical fellowship?
Biblical friendship is God ordained. My pastor pointed out the friendship between David and Jonathan in the Bible as a Biblical friendship. That friendship was God ordained.
Jonathan was there for David, he saved David’s life. “Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself.” 1 Samuel 18:1. Jonathan made a commitment to David that was for life. When Jonathan gave up his hope of ever being king to be friends with David God was there giving Jonathan the strength to be the friend David needed against all odds.

When my pastor said, “Everyone wants a friend like Jonathan.” It was surreal for me. I felt as though I was almost unable to follow the discussion because of what was going on in my own mind. I felt humbled and blessed and honored and overwhelmed all at the same time because I know without a doubt that I have a true Biblical friendship at this point in my life. I’ve never had that kind of friend (other than my husband) before. I have had a longing in my depths for a woman friend of this kind.

Before September 17, 2010, I would have been able to say that I had some close friends. I had some friends that were Christians and wonderful and helpful, but there was something missing. But, during my class reunion, I was reunited with my very best friend from high school. I hadn’t seen her in 40 years, but we reconnected like we had never been apart.

God and His everlasting love, goodness and mercy brought us together again. My friend lives in Lancaster and has been there as long as I’ve lived in Richardson. The Lord has taken us both down some very hard, rocky roads and through some difficult and trying circumstances. He could see us both all the time and He knew the exact moment we would meet again because that meeting was in His plan for us both. It is humbling to me to know how He led me through so many things I needed for this moment in my life. To be a friend to the wonderful, godly woman my friend now is.

Since that weekend in September, we have spent many hours together talking about what God is doing in our lives, praying for each other, crying together and confessing to one another. We have also had tons of fun! We’ve made jewelry and handmade cards, we went to the fair. We meet for dinner once a week to listen, encourage, cry – whatever is needed.

I do not know why God has chosen to bless me so much this year, but I am so very blessed. I have been blessed just being His child, just knowing I am in the palm of His hand. I knew Him in the hard times and loved Him. But it is oh so wonderful to know His love through this friendship.

I do not know why this scripture keeps coming to my mind. I do not know exactly how to weave it into the fabric of my journal today, but I want it here. So, here it is

Though the fig tree does not bud
and there are no grapes on the vines,
though the olive crop fails
and the fields produce no food,
though there are no sheep in the pen
and no cattle in the stalls,
yet I will rejoice in the LORD,
I will be joyful in God my Savior.

The Sovereign LORD is my strength;
he makes my feet like the feet of a deer,
he enables me to tread on the heights. Habakkuk 3:17-19